skirpy(Elite) posted this on Friday, 1st June 2018, 20:43
Hi,Something happened recently that has affected me on how to live my life....
I have had a few deaths in my family and each person i lost it was expected and going to happen through cancer or other illnesses.
I managed to get through this as i was prepared....
My best friend who was a good 10 years older than me and who i looked up to phoned me last week to come up for a few beers....we work together but shifts have changed and we ended up on opposite shifts, only got a chance to catch up on public holidays.
Spent the night with my friend , had a laugh and a blether and arranged to meet up again on our next day off.
He walked me to his front door while i waited for a taxi and still healthy and laughing away and waved goodbye to me until next time.
His wife phoned me a couple of hours later saying she found him dead in the kitchen
Scary stuff!.....i was scared to go to sleep after hearing that.
I have never experienced someone i know dying so quick.
It has made me realize i need to go out and do the things i have always dreamed about, i have always wanted to visit Japan but held back until i learned the language, been studying it on and off for about 15 years, but have decided to book a holiday this year and just go.
Just don't know what to do with my life just now....
I work in a place where i get a very good wage but i absolutely hate my job, most of the people i work with and working hours....up to 14 hours a day from 4 am in the morning.
My friend that died was the only reason i stayed there.
Think i need to make some changes soon.
My workplace is making me seriously depressed....no life!
This item was edited on Friday, 1st June 2018, 21:01
RJS(undefined) posted this on Friday, 1st June 2018, 21:29
You really do only live once.
Quote: skirpy says... "been studying it on and off for about 15 years, but have decided to book a holiday this year and just go" \o/
May this be the start of many, many things you've been putting off but always wanted to do, whether they be going places, doing things, learning stuff or changing your job for something you enjoy!
admars(Elite) posted this on Friday, 1st June 2018, 21:50
sorry to hear about your friend
it's interesting, as my elderly neighbour, gets very miserable when it rains, not because of the actual rain, but it means he can't walk to the busstop to get to the train station, to go for a day out. he used to work on the trains so he still gets free train travel!
he had a pace maker fitted recently ("funnily enough" he collapsed while getting on the train, good job it wasn't 30 seconds sooner!) and so wants to make the most of his time left. He hasn't any family, so it's kind of sad, but he's generally happy enough, showed me the £200 worth of records he had bought in Oxfam charity shop the other day!
as he says "you just don't know", you get ppl like the Rolling Stones going on forever, and you get professional athletes passing away at a young age :(
you have to get that balance, you want to make the most of it, while you still can, but at the same time, you don't want to blow it all now, and be penniless when you're retired.
but you've been mentioning Japan ever since we've known you on these forums, so it's about time you went if you can afford to :)
Brooky(Elite) posted this on Thursday, 7th June 2018, 06:01
Sorry for your lost, we are in the age of Dropping like a fly at any given time. Also have lost friends and family thru illiness or they moved to a far away location. If you don’t have anyone holding you back Go for it travel before it’s to late. I am glad years ago I took a break away to travel to England no regrets ever.Been dreaming Wish I could go again but sadly not doing So well.
mbilko(Elite) posted this on Thursday, 7th June 2018, 21:20
Aye I have been trying to save for a flat but still not enough so i said feck it and I am headed back to the far east around the 21st of June for 4 months, decided to enjoy the savings rather than work work work.
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