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We live in a small close with several young families in houses on one side and a number of older couples in bungalows on the other.

The children who are aged 7 to 11 often play out the front, kicking a ball about and pestering the old folks when the ball goes over their fences.

Most of the old folk are quite agreeable and the parents keep an eye on the children and they are not allowed to go out of site.

One of the children, who is 8 years old keeps attacking my much smaller 7 year old son. He just lashes out at him and often leaves him with a black eye, bloody nose or split lip and has to be physically pulled off him. The children are not in the same class at school and my son is the smallest of the group.

ALL of the other children (including the boys sister) confirm that my son has not done anything to provoke the other child and the supervising adults confirm the same.

This lad has been expelled from school for his behaviour.

We have spoken to the boy's mother (father has left home) but he keeps attacking my son.

The problem is we do not want to stop our lad from playing properly with his mates.

If he were an adult then he would probably be charged with ABH. How can we stop this other lad attacking him.

Well when I was a lad the parents would call the police and they would come over and have a friendly word with the parent and kid. Nowadays that just doesnt happen which probably explains why a lot of young kids are badly behaved. Suggest you try to speak to the mother again and impress on her the need to control her son. Do it in a friendly way but make it clear that if any more incidents occur you will take further action and speak to the social services or police

Andy

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Well when I was a lad the parents would call the police and they would come over and have a friendly word with the parent and kid. Nowadays that just doesnt happen which probably explains why a lot of young kids are badly behaved.

Most likely if the police still did this you`d hear nothing but people moaning about harrassment or suggesting that they "go and catch some real criminals" etc.

Rich

Yeah - keep on at his mum, and then ask the police to have a word.

All the kids on our road play nicely together, and everyone keeps an eye out for them - but there`s one kid (7 or 8) from another road who is naughty and *odd* and they won`t play with him. He gets up to mischief and is expelled from school - only went half days anyway, finally got kicked out for taking a kitchen knife in. Anyway, his mother is bloody *useless* - we`ve had to send for her or deal with him ourselves when he`s been playing in dangerous places or vandalising, but she just tells him to "find someone to play with" and sods off home. But the other kids just shun him. It`s ever so sad really.

I think appealling to the parents of the decent kids and getting an agreement if this particular boy approaches, then the kids are to play in a back yard if he won`t be nice.

Or take *both* children out of the situation - take them swimming or to the park together at the weekend and see how they get on *alone* and closely monitored.


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I know its no real answer, but when this started happening to my cousin, about the same age, my auntie started sending him to ju-jitsu. Didnt do a lot in the short term, but it all round toughened him up and gave him a lot more confidence, which, with this particular bully, seemed to be half the battle won.

It also got rid of his playstation belly.

I had that problem in my lovely new estate, one big kid pushing the others around. I just sat on my doorstep sharpening my swords and looking at him with no expression...

He hasn`t been around lately...

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Don`t start me off, in my day, etc.
There would be coppers on the beat who would clip him round the ear, etc.

I suggest the following. When he comes out to play, all the other kids will have to say that they will not play with him, unless he behaves himself. All of the kids have to look out for each other and treat the bully accordingly. If he wants to integrate then he will learn his lesson. If he still acts up, then keep ignoring him, hopefully he will get the message.

I`ve just given up after ten years of daily battling on this estate. Just NO one did anything and now I am so fed up I have no more energy left.
This country is in one big mess.
Yes,I am angry to hear what has happened. Very angry.
I do wish you all the best in sorting it all out.

This item was edited on Thursday, 14th April 2005, 23:16

You have been round once they done nothing,get a large object and put it through their front window,then tell them if he is attacked again you will burn their f***ing house down. >:( >:(

I know you have already complained to the mother, but sometimes people won`t believe that their "little darling" can do anything wrong, even in the face of being expelled from school and multiple eye witnesses etc. It may be that the mother has never seen these goings on so won`t believe it because she hasn`t seen it. Try getting some video evidence of the toe-rag beating up the other kids and show it to the mother.

She may then realise that everyone is telling the truth. Also it can`t hurt to have video evidence to show the police/social security if you ever decided to take it further.

Other than that, just encourage your son to keep his confidence high and not give in to bullies, because they aren`t worth it!